Blog for Youth

Are you facing problems handling your growing children? If yes, read on to know some great tips that’ll make it a lot easier for you and them to share and care for each other.

Times have changed and so has people’s outlook towards things. Right from the way you shop from e-malls to the way you handle relationships – everything has gone a whirlwind change. And the most challenging task among this is to manage our own kids which are at the threshold of this evolution process. Youth can no longer be treated as a silent commodity to whom you can teach things by force or reprimand them violently for the mistakes they commit. They can’t be pushed to do things or made to agree to what you say because you are older to them. Today’s youth is more sensitive and more vulnerable to self-destructive tendencies and so need to be tackled judiciously.

Well, you have to get into their shoes, make them feel understood and comfortable and speak to them in a manner that they does not make them passive. This indeed isn’t as simple as it is sounding, but if you employ this measure, you’ll see how easily you’ll be able to convince your teens with the right thing.

Contrary to this, the biggest mistake I see parents committing now a days is the way they punish their growing kids for the mistakes they do. The notions that an extreme penalty will make a kid learn faster and not repeat his mistake is wrong. Also thinking that punishment is another name for discipline is an incorrect way of thinking. Discipline in true terms means ‘to learn’ and if you really intend your kids to learn, it is imperative that you involve them proactively into doing something rather than reprising them severely.

Today’s youth is exposed to numerous elements, good and bad and hence can’t be made to understand responsibility through punishments alone or by creating fear of harm you might possibly cause them. This will instead lead to them becoming more arrogant and they will eventually lose faith in you. So the best way to deal with growing kids is to make the actively participate in the process of reinstitution rather than giving them a passive role of simply bearing the brunt of your anger. You’ll see that teens always have a reason for what they do or say. So give them the opportunity to respond as well while you are reprimanding them for something. Listen to what they have to say, their reasoning and their interpretation of things. Once they are through, tell them why their perception is incorrect and how should they go about it. Make them see the bigger picture. Give them logical conclusions about everything you say. Make them feel wanted and responsible. Growing kids easily draw conclusions so they should never for a single minute feel that they are not loved. If you try to understand them, they will try to understand you. All you have to need is some patience and you’ll see how easy it has become for you to handle the situation.

Youth are a storehouse of energy which needs to be put through a proper channel in a constructive manner and this change can only be brought out by the ones who guide them and nurture them which is YOU.

Some great decision making tips for the youth – a must read!

Of All the virtues in life, decision making is one art which everyone must seek, particularly the youth. The lack of decision making skills often makes the children impulsive who are seen to end up doing things over a spur of moment without thinking of the consequences. Seeing so many youngsters taking rash decisions which are later repented really bothers me for one of my kids is also stepping in the adolescent phase. It is in this phase that the youth often lose their understanding of things and realize the truth only when it becomes too late to undo it.

So this post is specifically dedicated to all the teens and parents who need to them how to take proper decisions so that they never really fail in life. These tips can be used a model to be implemented step by step in the process of making a decision.

Let’s take a look!

Search for alternate options!

Whenever the youth faces an issue which takes gross dimensions, they become extremely impatient and tensed and start finding out ways to escape from it or hide the problem in best possible way. In the process of doing so, they often end up doing mistakes which cause further damage.  Thus a simple way of dealing with this is to calm down and think of  the possible alternatives that can be employed to pacify the situation. Do not run away from the truth. Gather the courage to face it and accept it. You’ll see that you’ll be filled with immense strength to boldly solve the issue. Eluding from a situation often causes havoc which is the main cause of situation going further out of hand.

Consider the outcome!

Before taking a decision to say or do something, always think about the possible ripples it might cause after it might happen. The outcomes sometimes have an everlasting effect on people and events that might follow hence forth. Thus the best way to pick an option is to be assured of the fact that the option chosen should fetch long term happiness and stability. Writing all the consequences down and then shooing from it makes the process of decision making a lot easier.

Prioritizing helps!

Prioritize! Prioritize your options and choices. See which option carries more weight in terms of rendering stability. Don’t focus on short term gains. Rate your options and you’ll know what to choose and what to leave.

Good decision making skills are one of the best qualities that help the person tread through all walks of life with ease and confidence. I hope these tips help you as parents and the teens reading it in becoming more able in making better choices. I’ll be talking more on these in my forth coming articles so keep reading for more and be good!

Decision making is one of the most required virtues which everybody and particularly the youth should seek in life. This is because kids are often impulsive and end up doing something at the spur of moment which they often have to repent later in life. I have seen so many youngsters around me who without thinking about the possible consequences of their actions, end up taking rash decisions. It is only when it gets too late and they start suffering that they realize the mistake they committed.

So in order to teach your teen the correct manner of taking decisions so that they never really fail in life, here are some great tips which can be used as a model to be worked upon.

Find out the alternate options!

Whenever a problem creeps in, teens often tend to get worked up, tensed and impatient about how to go by in that situation. They think that the best way to deal with them is to escape from it or doing something which is often extreme. So to sort this out, it is best to re-think the issue once again in the head and lay out all the possible options coming out of it. A better way to do it could be to write down the problem on a piece of paper and then think of the alternatives that can be adopted to cover the main problem.

Considering the outcome!

Teens are an inexperienced lot and while choosing the consequences of a problem, they often pick the one which saves them from the onus of being talked about what they’ve done by peers and others. Well, it is important to choose a consequence which fetches you long term happiness and stability. So it is best to write down all the possibilities and then rate them one by one. It really works!

Prioritize!

Prioritizing the options makes it extremely easy for one to pick the right note to act upon. This is because a decision can often affect the future events to come. Hence it is imperative to know which option weighs heavier in importance.

Developing the tactics of good decision making is a skill which invariably helps the person to climb high in all walks of life. I hope these tips will help you in further helping your teens become more able in making choices. My forthcoming posts will contain more of these tips so keep reading and be good!

Changing times have brought about a sea change in the way everyone looks at the world, especially the youth. Youth no longer can be taught things by force or be scolded for the mistakes they make. They won’t do something if you push them for it, they won’t agree if you become too stringent in your approach. But if you get in their shoes, tell them you understand what they feel, they will probably take no time in following what you advice them. Yes, the dynamics have changed and if you intend to make your growing children more responsible rather than arrogant, you ought to imbibe the changing tides to deal with them.

The biggest mistake that parents commit while dealing with growing children is punishing them for the wrongs they do. They think the more extreme the penalty they cast on the kid, the faster he will learn not to repeat his mistake. This is a wrong notion. Also some parents think that punishment means discipline which is again a wrong concept. Discipline ideally means ‘to learn’ and if we really want our kids to learn, we have to involve them proactively rather than reprimanding them severely.

Parents should understand that youth can never learn responsibility through punishments or by fear of some harm you might cause them. This will only breed arrogance in their hearts and you’ll lose their faith in you. Thus the need of the hour is to make the kids participate actively in a process of reinstitution rather than giving them a passive role of simply listening to you. Teens always have a reason for what they do. Hence let them respond as well when you blame them for something. Listen to their piece of mind, their reasoning and their interpretation of things. Once they are done, tell them why their perception is incorrect. Give them logical conclusions. Make them feel comfortable. Make them feel wanted and grown-up. Teens should never even for a single moment feel that they are not loved and hence you are being so brutal with them. Understand them and they will understand you. All you have to require is a little patience and you’ll see how easily you’ve handled the situation without splashing any negativity.

Youth is full of energy which needs to be channelized in a constructive manner and this change can only be brought out by the ones who guide them and nurture them which is U.