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Infidelity may be considered a taboo by many couples but a prominent French psychologist has suggested that men who keep mistresses improve their marriage.

In her latest book, “Men, Love, Fidelity“, Maryse Vaillant said infidelity is essential to the psychic functioning of certain men who are very much in love and it can also be liberating for women.

From Timesofindia.indiatimes.com:

For all you know, it could improve your marriage. Maryse says that infidelity is not, by definition, proof of love. Agrees engineer Charu Verma*, 29, “We practically spend our lives in office, so naturally, one gets attached to colleagues. And why blame men; women too get into relationships of convenience. I work for 12-15 hours a day, and since I don’t get to see my husband often, we started having a lot of fights. I needed emotional support, and a colleague helped me out. Maybe it’s wrong for some people, but I wouldn’t call it cheating. It took my mind off certain things, and my husband and I are doing fine.”

Chirag Bhalla*, 31, a CA, feels there’s nothing wrong with an extra-marital affair. “Our wives are so career-oriented that they’re willing to work in a different city for a higher position. How are we supposed to control ourselves? And if having an affair helps one lead a normal married life, so be it,” says he.

But there are those who do think it’s unacceptable. “I have to disagree, because it makes a mockery of faithfulness. If a marriage has to be judged by the number of affairs one’s had, why get married at all?” asks 29-year-old HR pro Deborah Steele. Sumanta Mukherjee, 30, thinks “Men are programmed that way and can’t help being womanisers. It’s not true for everyone, though. Infidelity happens and there are ways to reconcile. But if it doesn’t work out, why not try something new?”

In short, you may consider yourself lucky if your husband is enjoying secret meetings with another woman.

If you think that only women have complaints and issues against men, it is time to have a rethink as problems are faced by both the groups.

Most women think that they are cool when they crib or talk negatively, but what they don’t know is the fact that men absolutely hate this habit of theirs.

From Timesofindia.indiatimes.com:

Weight-watcher: ‘Oh can’t have beer, it has 150 calories’, ‘I must hit the gym everyday’ – if these are your favourite catchwords, you have trouble coming your way. There is only so much diet, exercise regimens men can take and if you are too conscious, a man is likely to be exasperated. Women need to know when to give in ‘without throwing their weight around’!

In-law basher: Agreed only the fortunate are blessed with a good set of in-laws. So if you are not one of the lucky ones, will you constantly bash them up verbally? They are somebody’s parents and if you don’t have anything nice to say something about them, don’t say anything. How does that sound?

Worker bee: If you are buzzing nineteen to a dozen only about the presentations you have to make for the boss, deadlines, colleagues, HR head and the office janitor – it’s obvious you have nothing else to talk about. A man may want to know about your interests, your views on him, and more, but you prefer to hide behind ‘work’ all the time. If you want a man, any man actually – get a life first.

Agony aunt: There are some women who constantly feel they are an ‘advisory body’. They feel it is their business to hear out the whines of everyone around them and suggest suitable solutions. They are so deeply involved in this part-time job that they inadvertently sound like they are advising you as well. Nobody wants to date a mom, you know.

If you fall in any of the categories, it is high time that you change your approach to relationships and men so that you both can enjoy mutually satisfying and peaceful lives.

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If you are feeling confused or feeling hesitant to make the next move in your relationships, the right guidance can make all the difference. This blog centered on relationship quotes would surely help you find happiness in relationships.

Remember, we all stumble, every one of us.  That’s why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand. -Emily Kimbrough

Having someone wonder where you are when you don’t come home at night is a very old human need. -Margaret Mead

Oh, the comfort – the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe  with a person – having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away. -Dinah Craik, A Life for a Life, 1859

Someone to tell it to is one of the fundamental needs of human beings. -Miles Franklin

Don’t smother each other.  No one can grow in the shade. -Leo Buscaglia

If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say?  And why are you waiting? -Stephen Levine

Trouble is part of your life, and if you don’t share it, you don’t give the person who loves you enough chance to love you enough. -Dinah Shore

Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom. -Marcel Proust

If fame were based on kindness instead of popularity, on understanding and not on worldwide attention, you would be the biggest celebrity on earth.  And to my heart, you already are. -Anonymous

Soul-mates are people who bring out the best in you.  They are not perfect but are always perfect for you. -Author Unknown

Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky. -Rainer Maria Rilke

If relationships of your life come like the greeting cool air and left before you start understanding their presence to create a never-filing wound, it is time for you to redefine your approach to life and move on.

Each one of us need find ourselves occupied with relationships. While a good and satisfying relationship is said to be one where you just give and expect nothing, it is time that this approach be changed as ethics and morality are not the same today like what they were when this statement was first issued.

It is important for you to understand and remember that a relationship can be satisfying only when both the involved parties are happy. Remember, one of them is YOU and your happiness and desires are as important as that of the other one. Moreover, one cannot make others happy when he is not happy himself.

The best way out:

There is nothing wrong while entering into a relationship if you know the future and purpose. This means that if it is a life-long stand, both of you need to understand that “space” is something that needs to be respected by both, for both. You may not like her friends, spending habits, and other things but you need to accept it all (though you must make an effort to change them) and if you cannot, life can be really miserable. It is very important for both of you to find out the reason behind acts of the other person so that there is no space for conflict. Last but not the least life can be a happy bed of roses but only if the other half is not selected in a hurry. Disagreements may come and go, but happy compromises are something you need to be ready for if you want to lead a happy, satisfying, and peaceful life. If the relationship is just a one-night stand, you should not waste your precious thoughts.

But if you think that your special one is no more special, have a word to sort out the things, take some time out. If things still do not work out, move on for your happiness! If relationships are changing with time, they are not worth it!

If you are keen to make new friends, then this blog on relationships and youth will help you to a considerable extent. This blog has some simple yet highly effective ways that can surely help you win new friends.

Let us read about some basic tips that would help you grow your friendship with others.

• Do not be afraid to ask something personal but do make sure that you stay gentle and careful about your conversation.
• Do not forget that the best way to keep and grow friendship is best attained by keeping the secrets of others.
• For giving an extra touch to your relationships, do remember dates like birthdays and anniversaries of your friends and be a part of their special days.
• Never allow any one to badmouth your friends and never try rushing your interactions with people.
• Do not invade into the privacy of people when they need it the most and allow them to get back to you when they want your presence.
• When any of your friends or even an unknown one is in need, do take initiative to help him or her. If some one is sick or meets a personal tragedy, be the first one to meet him or her.
• If you have talked about your personal or professional goals in front of your friends, do make it a point to realize them so that they can be assured of your competence and words. In addition to that, always be yourself when dealing with people; artificial appearance can very easily be identified and this is something that you should not associate yourself with.

Last but not the least, good friends can be everywhere – your school, college, university, workplace, neighbor, and even in your family. Always give respect and care for people around you and your friendship circle will grow to new heights in no time.