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Children (including daughters) of parents deployed in the military are more than twice as likely to carry a weapon, join a gang, or be involved in fights, according to a new study.

“This study raises serious concerns about an under-recognized consequence of war,” said Sarah Reed, who led the research of military families in Washington state.

From news.yahoo.com:

Last year, nearly 2 million U.S. children had at least one parent serving in the military. Deployment can hurt a family in a variety of ways. There’s stress while that parent is overseas and in danger, as the remaining parent has to shoulder all responsibilities and family roles shift. There can also be challenges after deployed parents’ return, especially if they were physically or psychologically damaged.

The effect of military deployment on kids is an emerging field of research. The new study is considered the first of its kind to focus on those affected by deployments to Afghanistan and Iraq. It’s unique in that it looked at a statewide swath of the population in comparing the behavior of kids in military families to children in non-military families.

“Maybe if we make assumptions about children, we may overlook other ways they may be suffering,” said Dr. Gregory Gorman, an assistant professor of pediatrics at the Uniformed Services University of the Health Sciences in Bethesda, Md.

When it comes to experiencing the brighter side of life, there is not anything better than inspiration. This is the only reason why we have come up with the idea of collecting world’s best motivational quotes for your interests.

I am often accused of being childish.  I prefer to interpret that as child-like.  I still get wildly enthusiastic about little things.  I tend to exaggerate and fantasize and embellish.  I still listen to instinctual urges.  I play with leaves.  I skip down the street and run against the wind.  I never water my garden without soaking myself.  It has been after such times of joy that I have achieved my greatest creativity and produced my best work. – Leo F. Buscaglia, Bus 9 to Paradise

The elective system offered a bewildering freedom of choice, leaving some graduates with the impression that they had nibbled at dozens of canapés of knowledge and never had their fill.  – Ted Morgan

Standardization is the fertilizer of college education.  A little may be useful, but flowers do not grow in pure manure.  – Martin H. Fischer

A university is a college with a stadium seating over 40,000. - Leonard L. Levinson

The quality of a university is measured more by the kind of student it turns out than the kind it takes in.  – Robert J. Kibbee

Happy is he who still loves something he loved in the nursery:  He has not been broken in two by time; he is not two men, but one, and he has saved not only his soul but his life. - G.K. Chesterton

There are children playing in the streets who could solve some of my top problems in physics, because they have modes of sensory perception that I lost long ago. - J. Robert Oppenheimer

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There are children playing in the streets who could solve some of my top problems in physics, because they have modes of sensory perception that I lost long ago.  – J. Robert Oppenheimer

I am often accused of being childish.  I prefer to interpret that as child-like.  I still get wildly enthusiastic about little things.  I tend to exaggerate and fantasize and embellish.  I still listen to instinctual urges.  I play with leaves.  I skip down the street and run against the wind.  I never water my garden without soaking myself.  It has been after such times of joy that I have achieved my greatest creativity and produced my best work. – Leo F. Buscaglia, Bus 9 to Paradise

The elective system offered a bewildering freedom of choice, leaving some graduates with the impression that they had nibbled at dozens of canapés of knowledge and never had their fill.  – Ted Morgan

When childhood dies, its corpses are called adults and they enter society, one of the politer names of hell.  That is why we dread children, even if we love them, they show us the state of our decay.  – Brian Aldiss

The quality of a university is measured more by the kind of student it turns out than the kind it takes in.  – Robert J. Kibbee

Happy is he who still loves something he loved in the nursery:  He has not been broken in two by time; he is not two men, but one, and he has saved not only his soul but his life.  – G.K. Chesterton

When it comes to inner peace and happiness, there are very few people who can claim to be happy and satisfied. This blog, a compilation of motivating quotations, is a step from our side to help you find endless reasons to enjoy life with inspiring quotes.

There are children playing in the streets who could solve some of my top problems in physics, because they have modes of sensory perception that I lost long ago.  – J. Robert Oppenheimer

I am often accused of being childish.  I prefer to interpret that as child-like.  I still get wildly enthusiastic about little things.  I tend to exaggerate and fantasize and embellish.  I still listen to instinctual urges.  I play with leaves.  I skip down the street and run against the wind.  I never water my garden without soaking myself.  It has been after such times of joy that I have achieved my greatest creativity and produced my best work. – Leo F. Buscaglia, Bus 9 to Paradise

The elective system offered a bewildering freedom of choice, leaving some graduates with the impression that they had nibbled at dozens of canapés of knowledge and never had their fill.  - Ted Morgan

Standardization is the fertilizer of college education.  A little may be useful, but flowers do not grow in pure manure.  – Martin H. Fischer

A university is a college with a stadium seating over 40,000.  – Leonard L. Levinson

The quality of a university is measured more by the kind of student it turns out than the kind it takes in.  - Robert J. Kibbee

Happy is he who still loves something he loved in the nursery:  He has not been broken in two by time; he is not two men, but one, and he has saved not only his soul but his life.  – G.K. Chesterton

If, both the father and his son, can act sensible and try to find out the reason behind acts done by each one of them then they can surely enjoy a peaceful and wonderful relationship.

I must highlight one fact that needs to be taken care of, by both the father and his son. I have seen many situations where the only reason behind a souring father-son relationship was the inability to express the ‘hidden’ love, care, and affection. While I have seen many sons expressing their love for mothers with affectionate hugs, acknowledgement of presence, Mother’s Day cards, and many more things, I really do not find many sons doing the same from their father.

One of the greatest reasons behind such acts is the reluctance of the father to accept the hugs, gifts, and cards, like the mother. I am sorry to say but I have to, that some fathers treat these love-expressing things as unnatural or waste of money. And, when their children do not repeat these relationship-boosting acts, fathers think that their children do not love or respect them any more.

The best way out

The best way to handle this kind of a situation would be a wholeheartedly acceptance by the father and communicating to the child that he treasures the love and affection as much as he treasures the son.

We all know that the three magical words ‘I Love You’ can cast a spell but do fathers and their sons really say these words to each other and if yes, is the communication on a regular basis? Well if that was the case, I would not have chosen to write on this topic ever.

Anyways, it is time to leave the bitterness of the past and cherish this beautiful relationship.

Blame it on the hidden feelings or an inability to express the love or generation gap, the relationship between a father and his son is ‘accused’ of serious differences most of the times.

Through this article, I would like to try my level best to find out the real roots of tensions and differences in this otherwise much-adored and beautiful relationship.

When a male child climbs to the ladder of age, the first idol before him is no one but his father. This is not because there is no one as perfect as his father but because the definition of perfectness is all about care, emotion, unexpressed love, security, and right advice at that time. And, this is all what a father means to his children. However, the definition of perfectness changes with the passing years and this is what creates all the differences.

It would not be wrong to say that mistakes are committed by both the father and his son over a period of time. They may be as small as a shout by the father when a calm advice would have done the trick and this may be as small as an outcry by the son on the non-fulfillment of his ‘unreasonable’ demands. The crux is that both of them consider themselves and their acts justified, while things may be wrong in the other one’s eyes.

Now that we have tried finding some of the differences, let us move to the second and last part of this series (in the form of next article) that will focus on how to move ahead to find solutions on how to stop these father-son duels.