Blame it on the hidden feelings or an inability to express the love or generation gap, the relationship between a father and his son is ‘accused’ of serious differences most of the times.
Through this article, I would like to try my level best to find out the real roots of tensions and differences in this otherwise much-adored and beautiful relationship.
When a male child climbs to the ladder of age, the first idol before him is no one but his father. This is not because there is no one as perfect as his father but because the definition of perfectness is all about care, emotion, unexpressed love, security, and right advice at that time. And, this is all what a father means to his children. However, the definition of perfectness changes with the passing years and this is what creates all the differences.
It would not be wrong to say that mistakes are committed by both the father and his son over a period of time. They may be as small as a shout by the father when a calm advice would have done the trick and this may be as small as an outcry by the son on the non-fulfillment of his ‘unreasonable’ demands. The crux is that both of them consider themselves and their acts justified, while things may be wrong in the other one’s eyes.
Now that we have tried finding some of the differences, let us move to the second and last part of this series (in the form of next article) that will focus on how to move ahead to find solutions on how to stop these father-son duels.
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