Changing times have brought about a sea change in the way everyone looks at the world, especially the youth. Youth no longer can be taught things by force or be scolded for the mistakes they make. They won’t do something if you push them for it, they won’t agree if you become too stringent in your approach. But if you get in their shoes, tell them you understand what they feel, they will probably take no time in following what you advice them. Yes, the dynamics have changed and if you intend to make your growing children more responsible rather than arrogant, you ought to imbibe the changing tides to deal with them.
The biggest mistake that parents commit while dealing with growing children is punishing them for the wrongs they do. They think the more extreme the penalty they cast on the kid, the faster he will learn not to repeat his mistake. This is a wrong notion. Also some parents think that punishment means discipline which is again a wrong concept. Discipline ideally means ‘to learn’ and if we really want our kids to learn, we have to involve them proactively rather than reprimanding them severely.
Parents should understand that youth can never learn responsibility through punishments or by fear of some harm you might cause them. This will only breed arrogance in their hearts and you’ll lose their faith in you. Thus the need of the hour is to make the kids participate actively in a process of reinstitution rather than giving them a passive role of simply listening to you. Teens always have a reason for what they do. Hence let them respond as well when you blame them for something. Listen to their piece of mind, their reasoning and their interpretation of things. Once they are done, tell them why their perception is incorrect. Give them logical conclusions. Make them feel comfortable. Make them feel wanted and grown-up. Teens should never even for a single moment feel that they are not loved and hence you are being so brutal with them. Understand them and they will understand you. All you have to require is a little patience and you’ll see how easily you’ve handled the situation without splashing any negativity.
Youth is full of energy which needs to be channelized in a constructive manner and this change can only be brought out by the ones who guide them and nurture them which is U.
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